We all understand the importance of positive feedback. We know it should be timely and specific, and that public acknowledgment can amplify its effect. However, to truly impact someone’s self-image, confidence, and performance, consider supplementing verbal praise with the written word.
Why commit your positive feedback to paper?
First, it’s distinctive. While positive feedback in any form can be rare, receiving it in writing is even less common. The effort of articulating your thoughts on paper demonstrates the value you place on the recipient and their contributions.
Second, it’s preserved. Unlike fleeting verbal praise, a written note can be kept and revisited. Memories fade, but a tangible expression of appreciation can be treasured for years to come.
Third, it’s reinforced through rereading. A spoken compliment is enjoyed in the moment, but a written note invites repeated readings, embedding the positive message more deeply.
Here are practical ways to incorporate written feedback into your interactions:
1. Send a letter: A brief, heartfelt letter can make a lasting impact. Focus on genuine appreciation rather than formality.
2. “I like you because…”: Borrowing from Zig Ziglar, use this prompt to guide your feedback. This structured approach helps you identify specific behaviors to praise, whether on a custom-printed pad or a simple piece of paper.
3. Write thank-you notes: Elevate your thank-you notes by adding specific positive feedback. Acknowledge their actions and highlight their positive impact.
4. Send an email: While a handwritten note carries special weight, a well-crafted email can also be impactful. Acknowledge a good approach or express appreciation for their handling of a situation. Even a few lines of sincere praise can make a difference.
The power of written praise is undeniable. Stories abound of notes cherished for years, providing encouragement during challenging times and contributing to lasting success. As leaders, educators, parents, and simply as fellow human beings, we have a responsibility to offer this powerful form of feedback.
As you read this, someone likely came to mind – someone deserving of your written appreciation. Take a moment now to write that note. You won’t regret it, and you might just change their life forever.