Moving to a new country or city, regardless of the reason – be it for work, economic opportunities, family, love, or simply a change of scenery – presents a unique set of challenges and opportunities for growth. While the initial motivations may feel insufficient at times, they are often necessary catalysts for profound personal development.
Adapting to a new culture, language, environment, social norms, and lifestyle is undeniably difficult, yet incredibly enriching. In my own experience, the decision to relocate was a family one. As a young adult, I felt caught between dependence and independence, ultimately choosing to follow my family’s path.
Initially, I approached this new chapter with a sense of detachment, almost as if it were a dream. The reality of leaving my old life behind was too daunting to fully confront. I embraced the idea of an extended vacation. The warm climate and proximity to the beach, a luxury I hadn’t experienced before, fueled this illusion. For months, my life revolved around socializing, shopping, and enjoying myself without any long-term vision.
Soon, I met someone who seemed to embody my ideal partner: popular, attractive, charismatic, and athletic. We began dating, and I believed I had found the perfect romance. However, this perceived perfection quickly crumbled as I realized my expectations were based on an idealized image. My financial resources dwindled, and the ‘perfect’ boyfriend proved to be far from it, bringing with him a host of complications and emotional turmoil. The novelty of my surroundings wore off, but I persisted, clinging to the illusion of perfection.
As winter arrived, I embarked on my pre-relocation plan: studying fashion and becoming a renowned designer. Yet, I found myself in an environment filled with intensely competitive and insular individuals. The pressure to gain acceptance into the art school and curry favor with the instructors became overwhelming.
I encountered difficult situations, such as spending an entire day crafting a single skirt pattern in a molding class. It was then that I realized I needed to study in my native language, surrounded by like-minded individuals who were eager to learn and enjoy the university experience with a sense of purpose that resonated with my soul.
Eventually, I came to the realization that the things I thought were essential for my happiness were, in fact, unfulfilling. I struggled to understand my feelings of discontent, a sentiment my family didn’t share. Some individuals possess an innate ability to identify their passions and pursue them fearlessly, while others, like myself, feel a need to validate their choices by achieving external approval, often at the expense of their own desires.
Ultimately, moving abroad is a complex experience with both positive and negative aspects. It broadens your perspective and reveals that you are not alone, that there are diverse cultures, each with their own unique and shared traits. While adapting to a new environment is important, it’s equally crucial to maintain your identity. Always follow your heart, for you alone know what truly nourishes your well-being.