Deciding who to invite to a baby shower can be tricky. Navigating proper etiquette and avoiding hurt feelings requires careful consideration. A key first step is defining the type of gathering you envision. Will it be a traditional women-only affair, or will you include children? Increasingly, couples and entire families are being included in baby showers, so it’s important to define your own vision from the start.
Once you’ve decided on the format, ensure your invitations clearly reflect this. Use precise wording such as “women only,” “children welcome,” or “families invited.” If you’re planning a themed shower, prominently display this information on the invitation, along with any special instructions regarding attire, what to bring, or directions to the location. This proactive approach will minimize inquiries and ensure everyone is well-informed.
Always request RSVPs to get an accurate headcount. Keep in mind that a percentage of those who confirm may not ultimately attend due to unforeseen circumstances; a 20-25% drop-off rate is not unusual.
For baby showers hosted at workplaces, social clubs, or churches, a pre-existing guest list of colleagues or members may be available. However, discreetly inquire whether other showers are being planned for the mother-to-be. If yours is the only one, consider extending invitations to her personal friends and family to broaden the celebration.
Conversely, if you’re a friend or family member planning the sole shower, reaching out to the mother-to-be’s employer to gather a list of workplace acquaintances to invite is a thoughtful gesture. Her partner should be able to provide contact information for friends and work associates.
Finally, remember to include both sides of the family – the mom’s and the partner’s – if you are hosting the only baby shower.